CLEARING THE AIR PRACTICE
To Grow Power
- Find someone with whom you have concern that has not been spoken
- Speak that concern owning the issue as yours
- Ask them to reflect back so you know you have been heard
- Make a request they can answer now that will help you to be clear with them
Other Practices That Develop Power
Confront Opposition
- Name three things you are avoiding and deal with them now
- Identify a difficult conversation you to have, rehearse with a friend then do it
- Do something you want that you fear others will disapprove
- Use just enough force to awaken someone to a truth or shift a stuck pattern
Complete Clear Goals
- List as many different ways as you can to make agreements measurable
- Give another the power to invoke consequences if you break an agreement
- Make up for any mistakes by acts of service rather than words of apology
- Insist on consequences for those who keep or break an agreement with you
Say “No” Cleanly
- At the end of each day, list and review the things you said “no” to
- Look at your to-do list to see what only you can do; delegate everything else
- Feel the impact of each “no” to note any you could have done with less hurt
- Encourage someone to stretch beyond a perceived limitation
Confront Opposition
- Name three things you are avoiding and deal with them now
- Identify a difficult conversation you to have, rehearse with a friend then do it
- Do something you want that you fear others will disapprove
- Use just enough force to awaken someone to a truth or shift a stuck pattern
Complete Clear Goals
- List as many different ways as you can to make agreements measurable
- Give another the power to invoke consequences if you break an agreement
- Make up for any mistakes by acts of service rather than words of apology
- Insist on consequences for those who keep or break an agreement with you
Say “No” Cleanly
- At the end of each day, list and review the things you said “no” to
- Look at your to-do list to see what only you can do; delegate everything else
- Feel the impact of each “no” to note any you could have done with less hurt
- Encourage someone to stretch beyond a perceived limitation